Just when you thought that you have a peaceful work life, it would soon be trampled by a particular someone, a workplace bully.
A workplace bully is generally a person who intentionally or unintentionally distracts your work performance.
Most often, every workplace has one or more workplace bullies; hence, your job would be even tougher when you encounter these kinds of people.
When you feel toxic, frustrated or even challenged around a particular colleague, it’s highly possible that your colleague is a workplace bully.
Is having workplace bullies good? The mere mention of the word bullies would definitely scare you away. In fact, according to Tim Field, workplace bullies are one of the threats in making a profitable industry.
Having a bully nature would pull down someone else’s work performance; thus, being unable to fulfill the company’s mission.
Though a few others show great productivity when they are challenged or bullied by a workplace bully, it is never a better option to use your bully nature to achieve a long-term success.
Three workplace bullying behaviors
The 90/10 bully. This is a workplace bully who always see the wrong of others and one who isn’t satisfied with the results. In other words, this bully always nags about perfectionism.
If you have done 9 thing right and 1 thing wrong, the 90/10 bully would make your ears bleed pointing what you did wrong or even slightly wrong.
He won’t be happy if you have done 9 things right. He wanted all of it to be perfect. Rarely will you ever be praised for a job well done. So don’t expect positive feedback from the 90/10 bully.
This workplace bully would only derail your morals and dignity for not having a perfect score! It’s like working your hardest to get a 100 points in your exam to please your terrifying mom.
If you’re a good leader, you won’t resort to workplace bullying. If your subordinates have done something wrong, you would guide them and point out both the good and bad points that need to be worked out.
The blame game bully. This type of workplace bully is someone who is scared of accountabilities. When something goes wrong, he would blame anybody except for himself. He’s blaming other people just to save himself from the shame and unsatisfactory results.
This is a prominent type of workplace bully. Who wants to be blamed? So this bully points his finger at others first.
However, if you are a responsible leader, you too would accept that you are accountable for any failures made by your team member. Don’t only hog the glory. In trying times, instead of blaming others, you have to stand on your ground and think of a way on how to improve your work.
If you never want to be blamed at the first place, make sure that you only do exemplary work. Help each other out.
The argumentative bully. A workplace bully who constantly argues, and believes that everything he says is right. This workplace bully is able to go on lengthy arguments that tomatoes are really fruits and not actually vegetables. Seriously, why are there people who love to stir up even minor issues?
Arguing with an argumentative bully would only waste your time, and for every minute spent with him, you are losing worth 5 minutes of productive work. Even if the argument has died down, you’ll find yourself even harder to focus in your work!
Why not be a workplace bully leader
Being a workplace bully might make you feel that you are superior to others since you could bully them or make them follow your commands. However, it’s better not to be a workplace bully. And here are the reasons why:
You will never gain respect. People won’t truthfully respect you. They would only follow you because it is needed and they are intimidated by you. Workplace bullies do not truly respect other people, so why bother expecting them to respect you, too?
However, if you don’t have a mutual respect for each other, you wouldn’t be able to do a more satisfying work which comes from a trusting relationship. If you want to truthfully draw exemplary results in your work, start building honest and respectful relationships among your colleagues.
You’ll be making other people unhappy. Who’s happy being with a bully? Would you want to be surrounded by unhappy people who emit a gloomy atmosphere in your workplace?
Unhappy people do not perform well at their best, and this could affect the general productivity of the company you work for; hence, a decline in profits. Or even worse, it could lead to the shutting down of your company in the long run.
If you don’t want that to be happening, don’t bully people in your workplace.
You will gain a bad reputation. Most workplace bullies have self-serving, oppressive and obnoxious personality. You yourself would drive other people away to work with you because of your bad reputation.
A workplace bully is largely different from a strict leader who still listens to the opinion of his team members. In fact, that is a great type of leader. If you have a bad reputation, you are prompting yourself towards your own downfall.
Have workplace bully symptoms? Work it out.
As we have mentioned earlier, workplace bullies could be someone who may unintentionally distract someone else’s work performance. If you don’t want to fully dive in the depths of the hellish workplace bully personality, you still have time to save yourself.
• Remember to take deep breaths. Inhale and exhale deeply. This could actually cool your head and release all those negative vibes.
• Learn to communicate. Communicating with your colleagues would help you express what you really want to express. If you feel like exploding, go back to step number one. Don’t let your workplace bully personality get out of control.
• Always provide feedback. In order for your hot button not to be pressed, you have to provide feedback to the performance of your team members. If you have something negative to say about their performance, say it in a not-so degrading way. Be nice. That way, they could improve their performance better.
Here is a wonderful quote from Jim Rohn:
“The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.”
Remember this so that you won’t be a workplace bully and be a trouble for other people.